To the ones who love us the most.

Your parents are your one true supporters, since your birth they have been your constant cheerleaders. They were excited when you took those first steps. That is the most basic thing you could have done and they were proud of even that. Often in this rat race of success and sometimes to keep them safe from what we think is dangerous, they become villans in our eyes or sometimes downright toxic and we tend to blame them
You don’t have to achieve some goals to make them love you that you don’t have to please them ever all you need to do is learn basic stuff such as you learned walking but my dear that was a mechanical process, life is complicated one. All they want from you is that you make better decisions and be financially stable.
So that when life gives you lemons you can look literally make lemonade.
You parents are really proud of you, even the slightest of things you do.
I use to think that this was true only when we were small and chubby, but the stands true even today. If you doubt it one bit. Then start doing some basic stuff you had been putting off, for a long time. Like very basics such as arranging your clothes or something they will come around and appreciate even that. Now tell me, when can you find something like this so genuine so pure. I know sometimes we don’t look eye to eye with them and end up having arguments, that’s totally fine, everyone has them.
But instead of ignoring them and not making them understand at least we should try to let them to know what we’re thinking ,what are the facts we are basing our decisions on or what else are we planning in the back of our mind we all know how to do this, but usually be hold back .
why? That is obvious as well, we are tired of second guessing ourselves that we have no energy to make them understand. On those time remember these are the people who took care of you , even when you couldn’t speak . They made you, what you are and maybe you don’t have the energy right now, but you should try to make them see your point.
I may sound like a hypocrite because I have been a constant supporter of “My life, My rules” with time I’ve come to realize that life is a constant collection of happy memories and bitter experiences.
Yes, we should try and grow out of our comfort zones to achieve what we want in our lives but eventually we need to keep sharing our joys and our sorrows with them .
With father’s day just around the corner I just want you all to try and share your joys and sorrows with them just imagine how happy they would be to know that finally you are taking care of your house plants, because younger version of you was just interested in uprooting them and taking the dirt in your mouth.
Remember the glint in your father’s eyes when you brought home 100 on 100 exam paper or when you parked perfectly, that is still there. You just have lost the concept of sharing .
As of sorrows, we always try to keep them away from our struggles and our lows because we think they won’t understand or wouldn’t be able to help you but let me tell you that they might not know the technicalities of your problem but there experience can guide you through this .
Moreover just talking with them will help you appreciate how much you have in your life.
Just trust your instincts and share with your parents, your brothers, your family . It seriously helps a lot. Make it a habit even if you have nothing to share just tell them about some article you read or some health advice .Just never ever take it to a point that you are just having a conversation for the sake of having a conversation .
Have meaningful conversations with everyone you talk to not just half hearted hellos. I am not asking you to fake it or anything like that, I am just suggesting that you open your hearts and let people close to you see what you are struggling with and if not with everyone let your parents know.

The hollow reality of payments banks

Payments banks are the new cool in the market some think they are revolutionary milestones. They may be to some but in this country they are proving to be insufficient time and again. I can’t specifically pin point the grass root cause but if I were to name someone I think that these organizations are taking advantage of the situation and are exploiting our rights at many levels.

Paytm payments bank was barred from opening up bank accounts by RBI because it couldn’t maintain its net worth close to the guidelines. This is a serious action from RBI from which paytm learnt nothing and continued what it does best- advertising and promising hefty cash backs.

But it cannot be said that they dint take any action at all they not only stopped their bank account openings they deactivated many wallets (remember when you were logged out of your account even when you didn’t) under the pretense of incomplete KYC which they themselves were not interested in completing.

You all must be wondering how does any of this affect you as an individual?? Well this is something I am good at explaining. So, here are a few pointers:

Paytm which earlier was a friendly wallet now under the false pretense of completing KYC is using your aadhar data without your consent to open up bank accounts.

Now you may think it’s not that big a problem a bank account won’t cause much harm. But let me tell you its bang on violation of your rights on many levels.

This shady stuff doesn’t ends at opening up a bank account. They further activate or inactivate any service of their choice. Such as issuing you a debit card or credit card and guess what you don’t have to apply or check boxes for it. They do all this by themselves or their zero trained shopkeepers who are doing what they are asked to do. Moreover you come to know about all this from a no- reply E- Mail.

There is tedious procedure to delete your payments bank account if you don’t need it but my question is why did I have one in the first place??

I didn’t need one, I didn’t apply for any and most importantly I don’t want to have one.

In this era of digitalization all these small acts of violations are growing by the hour and we don’t even realize how these things can be major setbacks for us.

In January 2018 we discovered that Rs 167 crore was deposited by gas companies as a gas subsidy to their 31.21 lakh customers. And all these 31.21 lakh customers had no idea what so ever about their money. The customer has the right to choose the bank account in which they want to get their subsidy but in this case the company didn’t offer them much of a choice. After thorough investigation the Airtel Payments Bank lost it license for six months and money was moved back to the accounts of people.

I completely understand that we need to reinvent our ways to be better, but we need to start it at grass root level.  Even after so many guidelines we are facing such scandals. This is a straight indicator that we need to be more responsible in first place and these companies should share their detailed prospects of their agenda and most importantly respect the rights of their customers to choose whether they want an account with you or not.

Payments bank must understand that if a person has a wallet with you it doesn’t implies that they need a bank account with you.

Yes your idea is great but it needs a lot more work and reformed approaches than this to function properly.

 

 

 

Justice for Asifa????

How many more deaths do you need to wake up and smell the shit? How many more lives have to be laid? before we start calling a spade a spade 

Have we lost it all.

 Every time there is some news about rape or harrassment the extent of gruesomeness increases. It’s like their setting some example. Every time I walk alone, I am lonely in dark. Some sinfull act by then comes to my mind .I go we can my knees, I just feel like running miles. So that no one can catch me

 Then why do these rapists have some good old merciful punishments( in whatsoever little cases they are named and shamed) Shouldn’t they be treated with the same knives they used on an innocent girl ?

Shouldn’t they be stoned to death?

 I want to ask to every learned person out there on what logic is a merciful death or 14 years in prison to a rapist justice to a girl killed cruely by them .

Law is blind not deaf or insensitive Then why can’t it hear all these cries?

I think twice even before breathing. Is this what you call living?

           And those of you who think it’s a relevant in doesn’t affects you let me tell you it doesn’t matters what gender subclass you are it does affects you.

You think continuously about this cruelity ,and live in constant fear that someday it may happen with you or your near here ones.

 I just have this one question why don’t we have an exemplary punishment for rapists. 

So that when next time anyone thinks about doing such an act, He goes weak in his knees, not me or any other girl .

What happened with asif was inhuman.

And people protecting those rapist are damaged beyond repair.

I have no words to  express how deeply sorry I am for Asifa.

Our system has failed her , we have failed her.

Can anyone out there tell me –

Where was this girl wrong???

What would bring her justice??

Who is responsible for this loss??

Who ensures this won’t happen again?

Broken

Even if I crack ,

Even if I break,

Or I may even shatter,

But I can act like whole .
I create gaps between,

Parts of my own self,

Not to keep them apart,

But to give them space to grow.
I fill those gaps with experiences,

I seal those gaps with lessons.
I am not afraid of being shattered,

This is unique,

This is a celebration,

Because this makes me different.

To angry ones out there.

Anger is something when you give punishment to yourself for mistakes of others .

Yes sometimes people screw you over and you feel like shouting at them and in the end you end up crying. So whenever you feel like shouting at someone just relax and think whether this thing will matter after 5 years or not .

And if it is insignificant just don’t waste your time in energy. 

Sometime it’s not anger, you are hurt sometimes .It is like you feel betrayed and cheated. It’s then when you should tell yourself that the world is full of morons and you don’t always get what you give .

Just be calm and think even if you didn’t get what you expected at least you gave it to them , and your good is bound to get back to you. The more you give the more you get. It comes back to you in some form or the other.

 No words can grant you peace ,but you yourself can and this is real Redemption ,forgive the ones who haven’t asked for it .Just don’t repeat the sequence in your brain again and again because in the end you curse yourself for not doing such things not not saying this or that .Discover yourself a Calming exercise like writing ,reading, eating chocolates ,just busting out in front of some close friend etc.

Remember no matter how much restless you are right now, it will end and things you do will remain forever.